It's Not About Size

There are days/weeks/months when I have a hard time loving/accepting my body. I can love myself and accept who I am and think I'm great, but still have a hard time shirking the feeling that my body is supposed to be smaller than it is; that I can't be attractive unless my body is smaller. I do a lot of mental work to remind myself that my body is not everything and skinny is not necessarily healthy and all that, but one thing I've found that really helps me is looking at plus sized models. My favorite is the ASOS curve line of clothes. It probably seems like a comparison thing, but really, when I look at these women in the pictures I think they look so strong and confident and beautiful and their bodies are not smaller than mine has ever been like most models'. It makes me think that being attractive is not about being skinny, but rather about caring about how you look and it shows me how a body that is not 100 pounds can look in clothes. It reminds me that if I take a shower and put some mascara on and put on my favorite skirt/shirt/shoes, I can look and feel as cool as these women. I know that being attractive is not all about how you look . . . and like the post a couple posts below says, it's important to feed our spirits and nourish our non-superficial selves. I just need to believe sometimes that as a person who does not look like most models I can still look good in clothes just as these women look good in clothes. When I look online to buy new clothes, I see models who are skinny wearing the clothes and I have no idea how those clothes will look on my not as skinny body and I think that if I'm not skinny, I just have to wear sweatpants. Plus-sized models and the like give me a better idea of what clothes might look like on me and help me to feel confident when I put my pants on in the morning.

Here are some more websites that show different body types in clothes:

http://www.ajwearsclothes.com/

http://www.refinery29.com/plus-size-bloggers

http://advancedstyle.blogspot.co.uk/

I also read this article this week that reminded me that I'm not alone and that most women struggle with body image. The article is a bit graphic is telling about some of this woman's experiences with her eating disorder, but it's a great depiction of some of the thoughts a lot of women have about their bodies.
I also really appreciate the "body image heroes" at the bottom of the page. These women, like the plus-sized models, make me feel good about my body.

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