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Barriers, Hindrances, and Other Difficulties in Life

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Ever heard about the research study done on a bunch of young goldfish? They were raised in a fabulously long aquarium, BUT...
....there was a glass wall stuck right down the middle of it.  Every time these little goldfish tried to swim the length of the aquarium—clunk—they'd knock their little noses right into the glass wall.  Over time, they became resigned to their limits and made a life of swimming in just that half of the aquarium.  The researchers let a few months pass then removed the glass wall barrier.  Now the goldfish had full liberty to swim the whole length, BUT...
....the goldfish didn’t try.  They were no longer stopped by a glass wall.....they were stopped by their limiting beliefs!!!  
How are we humans doing in this regard?  When we experience obstacles and setbacks, do we pile up -even sometimes heap up- limiting beliefs about ourselves?  Observation tells me that we can tend to get bogged down; we can tend to consciously or subconsciously set up glass walls in our lives, limiting our happiness and our view about how life supposedly is or how we think it’s supposed to be.   Perhaps a set-back in love may be discouraging some of us, or the loss of a loved one.  Or perhaps we are in the grips of a downfall or weakness.  Or maybe we grew up amid dysfunction.  Please know – this is not to diminish the obstacles and pains we each uniquely face . . . yet, gradually we may allow these limiting beliefs and feelings to stop us from living our fullest, happiest lives. 



Notice how typically we view weddings and birthdays and promotions at work as some of the best times to celebrate.  But you know, there are many cultures around the world that believe with loss, death, difficulties, or destruction comes new life. For example, I have noticed in, frankly, every LDS funeral I have attended that the gathering becomes a rather uplifting, encouraging and reuniting event, even in a couple instances where the deceased person’s life was fraught with obstacles.  Similarly, in Judaism, shiva is the ceremony after the funeral where family and friends gather to share happy memories of the deceased – almost an opportunity to remind the living to recognize the abundance in this world and live well this day while you can.   As Edith Wharton once said, ““Set wide the window. Let me drink the day.”

Now take a look at this handful of examples from nature responding to seeming setbacks and destruction.  Kari Archibald, professor of Recreation Management at BYU- Idaho once shared,
             “Despite winter snows and sub-zero temperatures, a small delicate flower 
             called a spring beauty pushes up from the recently melted snow bank and      
             blossoms in the Teton Mountains. In the middle of an Arizona drought, 
             tough lizards of the Sonoran desert find water and food and carry 
             on. After a wildfire burns a mature forest to blackened stumps, small
             herbaceous plants emerge from the blackened forest floor after the fire.  That
             same God who created these beautiful environments and the species that 
             inhabit them also created us. He endowed us with the same abilities of 
             physical renewal.“  (italics added)


He endowed us with the same abilities of physical renewal!!!

She then went on to discuss the spiritual side of renewal, asking:  How do we become spiritually renewed? What do we need to rebound from spiritual challenges? What keeps us from being resilient in the face of spiritual setbacks? 

Sometimes it's the imperfections in this life (like the glass wall) that keep us from experiencing renewal.  We expect life to happen just as we have pictured it to happen.

In the next blog on this theme, I’ll share some ideas I've collected on answers to these questions.  Until then, remember these words the Lord shared with Moses concerning our abilities for renewal:  “For this is my work and my glory” (this is the greatest hope and reason for the whole Plan of Salvation), “to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man.”  ~ Moses 1:39


 What glass barriers???
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I'll Stay Where You Want Me to Stay

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 I’d like to share my experience trying to serve a mission and what it has taught me about true discipleship.
My story starts with this…

(ooh, it still gives me the chills!)
I already had the sister missionary fever when the announcement was made. That Monday I made a doctor’s appointment and called up my bishop. I thought I would have my call by the end of the month.
But then I couldn’t clear my physical examination. My doctor couldn’t explain what was wrong so I was sent to do more medical tests (I can't tell you how many times I had to pee in a cup). Throughout the next two months, I still had no doubt that I would go on a mission because I had received a confirmation from the spirit that it was what I needed to do.
At the end of fall semester, I was finally in to see a kidney specialist. The doctor came in and said “Well I can tell you you’re not going on a mission!” Haha, right. But he meant it. He explained that my medical tests pointed to an autoimmune problem that had to be suppressed before it would damage my kidneys more. 

I was devastated and confused. I had received spiritual confirmations that a mission was right for me. I was grateful we caught this medical condition before I even had symptoms, but did I receive confirmations to serve only to uncover this problem? How could the Lord plant in my heart a righteous desire for something I would ultimately be denied? I was angry with the Lord for not letting me serve. I was jealous of the girls younger than me who were leaving on missions. I was bitter I had to stay where I felt little hope for my future.

Many good women have found themselves in similar situations...
-How is it that I am still single when I am worthy of and desire a temple marriage?
-Why can’t I have children when my only desire is to be a righteous mother?
-Why do I have depression when I only want to be happy and help others be happy too?

I had to learn the meaning of true discipleship, so I prayed for a change of heart and the Lord led me to D&C 4:3
“Therefore, if ye have desires to serve God ye are called to the work;”
I desired to serve God and so He called me to His work, but His plan for me was to stay. I felt like Naaman, who would rather have done some “great thing” instead of washing in the lowly Jordan River seven times. I would rather have served a mission instead of staying another year in lowly Provo, Utah.
I then had to turn to Christ for the strength to stay, to endure medical treatments and find the work he has for me to do here. He gave me the faith to quietly be a disciple and lift where I stand. Elder Neal A Maxwell said…
“It takes faith to persist in doing good, particularly quiet good, for which there is no recognition. Otherwise, why bother? Therefore, faith in Heavenly Father's plan of salvation is needed not just for life's turbulent, traumatic moments but also for daily life's seemingly small but nevertheless defining moments.
I have learned that the Lord does have a plan for me. As I have tried to serve faithfully here, I have found new levels of growth through experiences and people that only the Lord could have foreseen. And what is more, I have had my eyes opened to see all the blessings I couldn't see while being too consumed by my unmet expectations.

Discipleship is standing as a “[witness] of God at all times and in all things, and in all places that ye may be in” whether that be on a mission or by spending another year in Provo, by being single or by being married, by being a mother or by being a loving influence for the children of others. It is serving diligently despite the challenges and circumstances we’ve been given, whatever they may be. The Lord truly knows how to make us become what He would have us become. It is only when we submit our hearts to the Lord that we can make needed changes in our perspective. It is only then that we learn to sing
“So trusting my all to thy tender care,
And knowing thou lovest me,
I'll do thy will with a heart sincere:
I'll be what you want me to be.”


-Genevieve
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